A simple phrase that goes a long way. It shows kindness. It shows gratitude. It shows politeness.
“Thank you” is one of the most important phrases in the English language, at least to me.
I was brought up on saying that simple phrase. It’s been drilled into my head. Being polite is important to me.
If I received a gift, I said “thank you.” If I received a compliment, I said “thank you.” Often times, even when I receive constructive criticism, I’ll say “thank you” because someone is taking the time to provide their advice and thoughts to help me improve with something.
I will always say, “thank you”, when it’s necessary. I will to that kind person who let me cross the street, or to the complete stranger who stopped me to tell me how much they liked my outfit.
But lately, I’ve been witnessing a lot of people, adults and children, completely avoiding saying those two simple words. For some, it appears to be a very difficult sentence say.
I understand, in some circumstances, a person might not think it calls for it. However, ANY situation where someone is showing you kindness or providing you with something calls for a “thank you.”
If a person stops to let you cross the street, or lets you out into traffic, the universal hand wave is all you need to say “thank you.” If you are a student, and your teacher or coach offers you a compliment for a job well done, respond with “thank you ” not “I know.”
Replying with an “I know,” after a compliment may portray arrogance, or that a person is just plain old full of themselves. If that’s what the person is going for, then by all means, reply with an “I know.”
When I witness a child, or young adult, responding with “I know,” I immediate wonder where that kind of attitude comes from. Maybe their parents use “I know” instead of “thank you.” If that’s the case, then we know where the arrogance is coming from and it will never change.
Perhaps kids are learning it at school, by hearing other children responding that same way. Maybe it’s a way to show they are cool to their friends. Or maybe it’s something they are often on a TV show they’ve been watching.
I won’t lie. Whenever I hear “I know” instead of “thank you,” I cringe. I immediately want to yell at the person, usually something along the lines of “Where are your manners?!”
If it’s someone I know, my typical snarky response is “The normal response to that is thank you.”
It’s definitely a pet-peeve.
This goes for all services, too. Whether it’s getting your hair done, going to the doctors, getting your teeth cleaned, getting an oil change. Thank you shows gratitude, whether you’ve had a pleasant time or not. It shows that you APPRECIATE what the person, or persons, have done for you. It doesn’t mean you had to have the time of your life at the dentist, but it shows that you still care.
Bottom line, saying “thank you” shows that you are, well, thankful. And if you aren’t able to say those two simple words, than you are saying to the world that you aren’t thankful.